Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend or Girlfriend Still Has Feelings You
What's the biggest question asked after an unwanted breakup? That's simple. It's the one question you'll keep asking yourself, over and over again, while looking as hard as possible for the right answer:
"How Do I Know if My Ex Still Loves Me?"
Before making a move toward getting back together, it always helps to know where you stand. And the best way to know this is to look for any of the telltale signs that your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend still has strong feelings or romantic attachments even after the breakup.
No breakup is completely clean and mess-free. Even in the most cut and dry of cases, there will always be residual feelings between two people who shared an intimate relationship.
In some cases, those feelings just aren't enough. They linger there for a little while, but eventually they fade away. This is because one or both parties did nothing to fan the flames of those past attachments. They let those embers die, and the relationship with it.
In other cases however, those emotional bonds are too strong. They keep people 'around' even after the breakup, causing them to stay in touch, communicate, talk, see, and think about each other. And no matter where you are right now in the breakup process, chances are your ex still has some unresolved feelings.
Currently however, one important thing is keeping you apart: your boyfriend or girlfriend is trying to bury those feelings. As the person who initiated the breakup, he or she is trying very hard not to think about the attachments they used to have (and still have) for you, and is instead focusing on a future that no longer includes you at all.
There are two important things to remember whenever any breakup goes down:
1) There are always residual feelings left over from the past relationship.
2) Those feelings, although still hanging out there, won't be around forever.
This means you have a limited window of opportunity during which to act, if you want to get back with your ex. And the more you learn how to play upon those existing or buried feelings, and bring them back to the surface? The quicker you can reverse your breakup by making your ex need you again.
As always, you need to be proactive, not reactive, about your breakup. You can't fix things between you and your ex overnight, but you certainly can't sit back, do absolutely nothing, and hope that he or she magically comes back to you.
Ways To Tell Whether or Not Your Ex Still Cares About You
When your ex first breaks up with you, you'll want to know how it effects them. After the initial rejection wears off, you'll find yourself hoping that your ex misses you more than anything else in the world.
To find this out however, most people take the wrong approach. They ask friends who end up prying for info - getting found out - and making them look even more pathetic than before.
Some of them go on Facebook, to see what their ex boyfriend or girlfriend is doing. This usually ends up driving them crazy, because they quickly become obsessed with every single activity their ex is up to since the breakup.
They take each post that an ex makes and try to analyze it... looking for clues that their boyfriend or girlfriend still misses them, loves them, or somehow wants them back.
Moreover, your ex isn't likely to put up an honest post on Facebook anyway. Even if they're sad or lonely, on Facebook they'll seem happy, active and confident. This is your ex trying to make themselves feel better. He or she is overcompensating for any residual feelings they might still have toward the broken relationship by convincing themselves - and the rest of the online world - that everything is a bed of roses.
So how do you find out the truth? How do you know if your ex really misses you? Loves you? Or even wants you back?
How can you know for sure that your ex boyfriend or girlfriend isn't completely over the relationship, and that there's still a chance you can get back together again?
Internal and External Signs That Your Ex Still Loves You
The best way to know where you stand is to examine how your ex talks, behaves, and even treats you after the breakup. There are varying degress of contact you'll have with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend, but even in cases where you have no communication at all it's still possible to know how they feel.
Sign #1: Your Ex Doesn't Stop Calling or Contacting You
Think your ex boyfriend or girlfriend is totally done with you? Not if they're still calling. Not if they're still emailing, texting, or leaving you messages, as if the breakup never happened.
It doesn't matter what your ex says here, as much as what he or she does to stay in touch. Someone who's 100% finished with the relationship would completely move on, whereas someone who's not entirely sure they want to let go will often keep many of the common lines of communication still open.
Therefore, when your ex still talks to you after dumping your relationship? It's a HUGE sign that he or she is still interested. Your ex is keeping you 'around' for security and safety reasons, and doesn't want you going anywhere just yet.
Sign #2: Your Ex Still Wants To Be Friends After The Breakup
"Oh, but I think we should still be friends..."
Sounds so nice, doesn't it? And chances are you readily jumped at the offer to stay friendly, mostly because you thought it would be a great way to remain in your ex boyfriend or girlfriend's life just long enough to get them back.
Truth is, being friends with your ex is the worst thing you can do for a variety of reasons. Not only won't it help you get back together, it will actually lessen the chances of your ex ever wanting to get back into a serious relationship with you.
Still, there's some good news. Because an ex who's asking to be friends after breaking up with you is not yet finished with the relationship - not even close.
Your ex does NOT want you as a friend. What he or she really wants is for you to stick around for a while, and the best way to keep tabs on you is to become your 'friend'.
At the same time, your ex knows you'll take them up on this offer because they dumped you. He or she realizes you're still hung up on them, and "being friends" with you is a great way to string you along for safety reasons while they play the field and decide if there's someone else out there they'd rather date.
In the end, asking to be your friend is a good sign your ex still has feelings for you. Because once again, if those feelings weren't still there your ex wouldn't care at all about whether they still hung out or talked with you, emailed you, or text-messaged you back and forth.
Sign #3: Your Ex Keeps Tabs on You After The Breakup
Any time one person breaks up with another, they'll be curious as to how that person handles it. The faster and more easily you can get over an ex, the harder you'll kick a dent in his or her ego.
For this reason, your ex will watch you for a little while even after dumping you. They'll want to see if you've gone on with your life, or whether you've fallen into a deep depression because you miss them so much. This type of validation is important to some people, even though they're the one who initiated breaking up.
That said, when your ex is still keeping tabs on you, asking friends about you, or even outright calling to see what you're up to? It's because he or she doesn't want you to move on yet. And in some cases, that's because your ex girlfriend or boyfriend likes to know that they can still get you back.
Sign #4: Your Ex Is Overly Talkative About His or Her Own Single Life
When your ex doesn't want you moving on without them, they'll do one important thing - they'll somehow let YOU know that THEY haven't moved on.
This type of hint-dropping game is really your ex trying to convey a simple message: "I'm not dating anyone else right now... so you shouldn't either."
In this scenario, your boyfriend or girlfriend will go out of their way to make absolutely sure you know they're still single. This might be through direct contact, or they might leave this knowledge with your friends or family. In either case however, it's a sign they still have residual feelings. Enough feelings to NOT want you dating anyone else just yet.
Other Signs Your Ex Hasn't Gotten Over Your Relationship
Remember, when your ex broke up with you he or she went through a breakup as well. There's a lot of emotional reconciliation that must happen before one person gets over another, even if they were the one who called the romance off.
Subtle signs that your ex still has feelings for you will include physical and emotional behaviors. If you see your ex through work or school, you can usually get a good read on how they're feeling. Check their body language, as well as what they do or say. But make these observations from afar; you don't want your ex girlfriend or boyfriend to know you've been looking after them.
And if your ex isn't showing any signs of still being in love with you? It could be that you just can't see them. To test them out, you'll need to learn which emotional triggers can be used to tell EXACTLY how your ex boyfriend or girlfriend still feels about you.
For Guys: - Read up on which little known signals can help tell if your ex girlfriend is totally finished with dating you or whether she really wants you back.
For Girls: - Get the inside scoop on exactly what men are looking for when it comes to a girlfriend, and how you can use that knowledge to win your ex boyfriend back.